by achim mirjam | Nov 19, 2023 | daddy issues
Someone who had a strong influence on me, is no more. Pieces are coming together, again. Nobody knew them like we knew them and most people knew them like we didn’t know them. I found a different way of knowing them in the recent years. It was their way of being in the world, how they knew to be. Maybe a mixture of their choice and the choice of others to buy their story?
The person I thought so powerful and a tyrant for some years, was human after all. I wept many tears, for the love not lived. I wept many tears for the moments of tenderness we actually shared. The one who hardly invited love, appreciated to receive it in the end. All those moments were lost like tears in rain.
Stefan Zweig said once:
“No one is gone, whom you love; Love is eternal now”
“Niemand ist fort, den man liebt; Liebe ist ewige Gegenwart.”
by achim mirjam | Nov 19, 2023 | Uncategorized
Read in a calm voice without bitterness and sarcasm:
Some people are better loved from afar.
by achim mirjam | Oct 19, 2018 | Uncategorized
I’m mostly surrounded by people who I perceive as very smart. This makes talking to them so pleasant. How do we establish intelligence? In what context does for e.g. IQ and and other comparison metrics make sense?
I realised that even though both include “intelligence”, I value collaborative intelligence higher than competitive intelligence, because it makes more fun to work together like that, no matter what the actual topic is about. Does the way to phrase it like this even make sense, is the competition/collaboration part of the intelligence, or part of traits or spirit of the person? In any case I even like (board) games that are collaborative much better, then competitive ones and some friends even say it’s no fun to play those games with me, since I have a hard time playing “mean” or “edgy”. I understand there are use cases for all kind of intelligence, I just happen to prefer and feel more at ease with collaborative ones. So search for intelligence within myself and others leads me to the question: What do I need for a good collaboration?
- Check on vocabulary, meanings and definitions.
- Dealing with differences – addressing resistance – for e.g.: via systemic consensing
- The willingness and ability to use higher quality or more recent information as soon as it is available.
- Empathy
At this point I want to plug my friend Wolfgang Lukas, who is researching and offering contemplative collaboration, a project to support improved well-being and efficiency in scientific and other complex projects.
by achim mirjam | May 17, 2013 | Uncategorized
Shame…
that some parts of us
are no good.
Shall not be seen.
Are to be hidden.
Are damaging to others
Make us unlovable.
Cultural norms; loud voices; beliefs
have an important say about the names of those unloved, unwanted parts.
Anger; negativity; emotionality;
emotions that differ from those who are welcome by us, or people close to us.
To spend time with people who are able to witness you,
in those states, those parts of you,
can be a very powerful path towards
integrating those parts; connecting; healing
wholesome beings!
I’m a very happy being to have such presences in my life.
by achim mirjam | Nov 29, 2012 | Uncategorized
Whenever I’m courageous and the outcome of my courage
is not the “best” possible variant of all worlds,
so to say, the fulfillment of my expectation,
I was still courageous.
I did my part.
I walked the extra mile
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